Selena Lee reveals she once considered having a baby with Car Chong Kin, but feared becoming a single mother

(Hong Kong, 13th) Actress Selena Lee, 44, and her former fiancé Car Chong Kin have recently drawn attention after appearing on the Chinese reality show Goodbye Lover 5, where they attempt to repair their eight-year relationship through honest conversations and on-screen interactions. In a recent episode, Lee revealed that she once seriously considered having a child, but ultimately decided against it due to a major concern.

When a guest asked whether they liked children, Car responded enthusiastically, saying he does. Lee said she likes kids as well and had previously thought about becoming a mother. However, she admitted she feared that if they had a baby, she would end up functioning like a “single mom,” because she expected most responsibilities—planning, managing, and organizing the household—would fall on her, leaving her exhausted.

Lee added that they did discuss having a child, but the more she reflected on their current dynamic, the more she worried she wouldn’t be able to cope. She said that if managing their life together already felt draining, adding a child could push her to the breaking point. She also expressed concern that she might lose her sense of self and career momentum, as her entire focus would shift to parenting—so she eventually chose not to go through with it.

After the clip aired, many viewers said they understood her worry, noting that when responsibilities in a relationship are uneven, the pressure of raising a child can become even heavier. Some online comments suggested that if they had a child under those circumstances, Lee might end up carrying most of the parenting load alone.